i remember how i felt as a first time mother. i had placed so much attention on how i was going to bring elodie into this world, that when she finally arrived i was a bit shell-shocked. now what? no one tells you about the long hours between morning and night that you are to fill with your little one. or how you actually dread the coming night as you know there is no rest in store. i remember seeing a family of three with a 5 month old actually smiling and i wondered if that would ever be me again. would i ever look so carefree. i don't think i had post-partum depression, i was just overwhelmed, tired, and unsure of myself as a new mother. every month i read "your child at this age" and wondered if i was giving elodie what she needed. with so many products out there saying they will make your baby more engaged, i couldn't help but wonder if i was missing out.
four years later, i'm a little bit further along on this parenting journey. i try not to overanalyze everything. my husband and i talked about it the other night. if you are driving a car really fast, you can't look down. you must focus on the horizon and drive towards it. your mind will fill in the blanks of the road ahead of you. the minute you stop and really think about what you are doing, hurtling down the road, you crash. this is the same for riding a bike, a snowboard, a surfboard, and yes, it's the same for parenting. being "in feel" is so much more important than reading a book or buying a product to make your child smarter.
i truly believe that we have all we need to engage with our children at every age. but sometimes it's hard to remember that when you are staring down another 12 hours alone in your house. with that in mind, i've reached out to mothers from all over the world with children from 0 to 24 months for a peak into how they engage their children. i hope you enjoy this glimpse into their day and that it inspires you to sing a new song, play a new game, find a new way of looking at your little one so that you can be in feel with them, as they grow. i can't wait to share our first mother with you tomorrow!