Thursday, April 4, 2013

as they grow - a new series









































i remember how i felt as a first time mother. i had placed so much attention on how i was going to bring elodie into this world, that when she finally arrived i was a bit shell-shocked. now what? no one tells you about the long hours between morning and night that you are to fill with your little one. or how you actually dread the coming night as you know there is no rest in store. i remember seeing a family of three with a 5 month old actually smiling and i wondered if that would ever be me again. would i ever look so carefree. i don't think i had post-partum depression, i was just overwhelmed, tired, and unsure of myself as a new mother. every month i read "your child at this age" and wondered if i was giving elodie what she needed. with so many products out there saying they will make your baby more engaged, i couldn't help but wonder if i was missing out.

four years later, i'm a little bit further along on this parenting journey. i try not to overanalyze everything. my husband and i talked about it the other night. if you are driving a car really fast, you can't look down. you must focus on the horizon and drive towards it. your mind will fill in the blanks of the road ahead of you. the minute you stop and really think about what you are doing, hurtling down the road, you crash. this is the same for riding a bike, a snowboard, a surfboard, and yes, it's the same for parenting. being "in feel" is so much more important than reading a book or buying a product to make your child smarter.

i truly believe that we have all we need to engage with our children at every age. but sometimes it's hard to remember that when you are staring down another 12 hours alone in your house. with that in mind, i've reached out to mothers from all over the world with children from 0 to 24 months for a peak into how they engage their children. i hope you enjoy this glimpse into their day and that it inspires you to sing a new song, play a new game, find a new way of looking at your little one so that you can be in feel with them, as they grow. i can't wait to share our first mother with you tomorrow!

14 comments:

  1. I was just thinking about how things will be so different if and when#2 will come. I will definitely be more prepare physically and emotionally, thats for sure :)

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  2. This is lovely and so true. I felt the same way when I gave birth to my son(now almost five). I didn't think it was post-partum, but everything just felt so surreal and overwhelming. I felt lost at times, wondering how I was going to do it all. In addition all those feelings, I was completely enamored by him in all of his sweetness. So so many different, amazing, and indescribable feelings that motherhood brings.

    Theresa
    http://bomamma.blogspot.com

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  3. My husband and I are trying to get pregnant, and I am so excited about this series. I just know I am going to devour it and take it to heart. xo

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  4. I am expecting in July. I'm excited about this series as well :) I'll glean whatever tips you can give!

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  5. love this idea for a series. i'm sure it will be full of encouragement and reminders for me as we welcome #2 in the next few weeks...yes! we can all learn so much from inspiring and encouraging each other as mamas. thank you, friend!

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  6. oh, this is so what i need right now! as magical as these past 6 weeks have been, i am constantly wondering if what i've been doing is "right" or "enough."

    xx

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  7. I am so excited for this! This entire post resonates so much with me, I can only imagine how the series will be! Thanks!

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  8. This is a great idea! If you are still looking for blogger-mamas to participate, I'd love to talk. Best wishes :)

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  9. Me too, I'd love to participate! Can't wait for the series!

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  10. Thank you for your honesty, always. You're a mama inspiration! The idea of having a family, being a mom was always so abstract, I wasn't sure if it was what I wanted. Now that we have our sweet baby girl it feels so natural, so real, so true. Being in feel is trusting your instincts, not over thinking things, just going with the flow. Looking forward to this series!

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  11. As a new mama of an almost three month old, this series is exactly what I need. Thank you for your honesty. Although my little guy sleeps really well (at least for now), the nights are still lonely and daunting all by myself with his "dream feeds". Feeling overwhelmed and inadequate is an understatement, but every day is a new adventure and watching my son grow and develop is one of the greatest pleasures of my life. Highs and lows, it would seem :)

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  12. I'm really looking forward to this series. I love that you call it "in feel". As a new mom you definitely feel the pressure to do as the books or any one else but your inner self says. It's takes a great deal of strength and courage to trust your self. And yet when you do nothing feels more real and more right. Fills me with possibility just thinking about it. Thank you for doing this. xo

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  13. I really identify with this; I had a such a difficult transition to motherhood with my daughter. She's now almost five and I feel much more confident in my mothering and our relationship. I am really looking forward to this series!

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  14. I'm revisiting this series of yours and it's resonating with me so much. I'm very much overwhelmed lately and it's comforting knowing this happens. Thank you for sharing. xo

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